Just, Be.

Let’s be serious; at some point, we’re all going to experience less than stellar days.

You’re going to wake up on the wrong side of the bed, and half way through the day – you’re going to realize you were better off staying in bed. Even if you do everything ‘right’, you may find yourself in the line of someone else’s fire, making you the target for their release on their own misfortunes.

Whatever happens and however it happens to make life, unappealing, it isn’t the end of the world. You will, recover.

The truth is: You don’t have to be “awesome” all the time. If you’re having a bad day, it’s not so bad to give in and just let it happen. If you want to cry about it, then let those tears pour down your face! If you find a guilty pleasure to make you feel better, for even a small blip in time, then why not. When you feel like just being miserable, then go right ahead and put your grumpy pants on. Whatever it is that you need to do, just do it.

It’s okay to take a break from being that strong individual you pride yourself on all the time, and it’s okay to let loose, be vulnerable, and accept any help that comes your way. You’ll feel better if you let it happen. Let it pass, and then – move on.

Give in to your feelings, emotions and gut instincts. Follow your heart, and listen to that little voice inside your head. There’s no need to fool anyone or pretend to be something you’re not…
Don’t try to be someone you’re not – whether that’s what you or other’s seem to think you should be.
Just be, YOU. Naturally, comfortably, honestly… in every moment.

You’re a fantastic human being, just as you are. So just… be. You.
Life’s a lot easier, and more enjoyable for the most part, that way.

 

You CAN.

I’ll be the first one to admit that I grew up as a slightly spoiled, only child. I grew up getting all the things my heart desired; I asked, I received, and I hardly had to share. Now that I’m older and slightly more mature, I’m slowly learning it doesn’t quite work the same way. Realistically, we can’t just snap our fingers and expect magic. Millions and billions of dollars can’t buy true, genuine happiness. No matter how hard we try, there are certain aspects of life that are out of our control and we can’t force things to happen.

That being said, it doesn’t mean we can’t follow our hearts and chase our dreams; it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t passionately pursue amazing feats and ambitious goals. It means that with solid effort, persistence, and dedication – we absolutely CAN achieve greatness.

I like to believe that in a lot of cases, we can get what we want. I don’t think this way because of how I was raised, but because I’ve seen it happen; I’ve done it and you can too.
You just gotta’ believe in yourself and be about it. So get out there; face your fears, take risks, and do the unthinkable. You’ll be surprised at how much you can have because you took a chance and tried.

You’re Going to Be Okay.

I’ve been through my share of unexpected, unfortunate, and unsettling endings and every single one of them left me in a miserable state. Crushed and depleted of my will to wake up every morning with anything else but a tear in my eye, I wanted to forever confine myself to my apartment, live in my pajamas and have mint chocolate chip ice cream delivered to me on a weekly basis.

Finally, I would get out of bed and put some real big-girl pants on, hoping that the worst part was over. Months later, I still have days where I fall back into a sad state of feeling sorry for myself. I have bad days where I question everything I’ve already wondered a million times and stress my brain over every inquiry that can’t be answered. There are many days when everything I’ve tried to forget comes back to haunt me and so many days when all the things and memories I tried to let go of find me again. And I have days when I just miss certain people and the way things used to be.

Life changes in the blink of an eye and things we could never predict happen. It’s intense, and sometimes it really sucks. (Every so often, it’s pretty awesome). Whatever the case, embrace it. Take deep breaths and baby steps, ease yourself into it. It’s going to get harder before it gets any better, but one day – it won’t even be an issue anymore.

Whatever happens… you’re going to okay kiddo. You’re going to be, okay.