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You CAN.

I’ll be the first one to admit that I grew up as a slightly spoiled, only child. I grew up getting all the things my heart desired; I asked, I received, and I hardly had to share. Now that I’m older and slightly more mature, I’m slowly learning it doesn’t quite work the same way. Realistically, we can’t just snap our fingers and expect magic. Millions and billions of dollars can’t buy true, genuine happiness. No matter how hard we try, there are certain aspects of life that are out of our control and we can’t force things to happen.

That being said, it doesn’t mean we can’t follow our hearts and chase our dreams; it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t passionately pursue amazing feats and ambitious goals. It means that with solid effort, persistence, and dedication – we absolutely CAN achieve greatness.

I like to believe that in a lot of cases, we can get what we want. I don’t think this way because of how I was raised, but because I’ve seen it happen; I’ve done it and you can too.
You just gotta’ believe in yourself and be about it. So get out there; face your fears, take risks, and do the unthinkable. You’ll be surprised at how much you can have because you took a chance and tried.

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You’re Going to Be Okay.

I’ve been through my share of unexpected, unfortunate, and unsettling endings and every single one of them left me in a miserable state. Crushed and depleted of my will to wake up every morning with anything else but a tear in my eye, I wanted to forever confine myself to my apartment, live in my pajamas and have mint chocolate chip ice cream delivered to me on a weekly basis.

Finally, I would get out of bed and put some real big-girl pants on, hoping that the worst part was over. Months later, I still have days where I fall back into a sad state of feeling sorry for myself. I have bad days where I question everything I’ve already wondered a million times and stress my brain over every inquiry that can’t be answered. There are many days when everything I’ve tried to forget comes back to haunt me and so many days when all the things and memories I tried to let go of find me again. And I have days when I just miss certain people and the way things used to be.

Life changes in the blink of an eye and things we could never predict happen. It’s intense, and sometimes it really sucks. (Every so often, it’s pretty awesome). Whatever the case, embrace it. Take deep breaths and baby steps, ease yourself into it. It’s going to get harder before it gets any better, but one day – it won’t even be an issue anymore.

Whatever happens… you’re going to okay kiddo. You’re going to be, okay.

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Don’t Fight the Unworthy Fight.

“If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you won’t give up.” – Bob Marley

I’ve been there – fighting for a boy to give me a chance. We’ve all been there, haven’t we? Trying to get someone to like you and doing everything you can to win them over. You bend over backwards and you go out of your way, above and beyond to prove your undying love for them, in hopes they’ll feel the same for you and that you’ll both live happily ever after.
All you want is that person to accept you with open arms and share your love. For that, you’re willing to fight as hard as you can.

In the heat of the moment or for that whole span of time when your life is consumed by thoughts of that person – keeping them around you is the only thing that makes sense.

Love in it’s true form is something worth fighting for… BUT – real love shouldn’t require an ongoing and exhausting battle. Love is something to be appreciated, worshipped and enjoyed; it shouldn’t cause you stress or misery.
This world is filled with incredible people who win our hearts over, make us weak at the knees and open our eyes to amazing things. But we can’t always keep them to ourselves…

Don’t waste your precious days chasing after someone who doesn’t appreciate your efforts. Don’t let all your energy and passion be wasted on someone who can’t accept them. Let go of the people bring you down and make things more complicated than they should be; let go of unnecessary drama and be happy. Life is way too short to waste on someone who can’t worship the ground you walk on. You deserve better than that.

Don’t put yourself in the position to get hurt and don’t break your own heart; don’t fight the unworthy fight.